September 20, 2019
By Ekta R. Garg
Two weeks ago, on the day after Labor Day, I woke up with a sore throat. No problem, I thought. When the seasons change here in Central Illinois, we expect a day or two of scratchiness.
On Wednesday of that week the scratchiness had disappeared, and congestion had arrived. Again, I didn’t bat an eye. Okay, so I would come down with a cold. Not fun but certainly nothing to worry about.
Then came Thursday. The day I woke up feeling like a truck had run over me. Twice.
Because my husband had to go to the clinic later that morning, he volunteered to take the kids to school. I followed the three of them to the mudroom and watched them put on shoes and pick up backpacks. Then I opened my mouth to bid the girls goodbye.
“Have a good—”
“Go sit down,” Thirteen interrupted with full-on teen stubbornness.
“I will, I just—”
“We love you too; go sit,” she repeated.
“I know, but—”
“We love you, we’ll have a good day, see you after school, there,” Eleven piped up behind her sister. “Go, Mamma. Take it easy.”
I looked at my husband.
“What has the world come to?” I asked, feigning shock. “Do you see the way the kids are ordering me around?”
He pecked a kiss on my forehead and reiterated what the kids told me. In essence, all three of them were banishing me to the sofa for the day. Since they outvoted me, I had no choice but to listen and was grateful to do so.
I spent that day catching up on HGTV and a movie or two. When it came time for dinner, we ordered Chinese. My husband and Eleven picked it up on the way home from soccer practice, and I watched them walk in with the takeout containers from the couch.
In a move rare for me, I didn’t get up to serve anyone. Instead, I let Thirteen come to me. She pulled a little side table to me.
“What do you want to eat?” she asked me and filled a plate per my requests then brought it to me.
“When you get all better, I’m sanitizing everything,” she said, picking up the remote a little gingerly. She set it on the coffee table and went to the island counter to join her sister and father for their own dinner. After a few minutes, when she saw my plate empty, she refilled it for me.
On Friday, though I didn’t know it was possible, I felt even worse. I also woke up with a temperature, which the girls monitored with me during the day. That evening when I announced the fever had dropped, they both cheered.
Throughout the weekend and all of last week, the girls went out of their way to take care of me. Eleven asked repeatedly if she could help with household chores not normally her responsibility. Thirteen made sure I stayed comfortable on my sofa spot for the week. Both of them took turns teasing me in the most good-natured fashion, gentle but still funny.
Last Thursday I felt good enough to do some small tasks, which took me to sorting through the mail right around the time the girls would come home from school. As he had done many times, my husband stepped up (despite starting to feel a little icky himself three days earlier) and brought the kids home. I happened to be standing at the small counter close to the mudroom where we drop mail and other items when everyone walked in
“Oh my gosh!” Thirteen exclaimed, taking a dramatic two steps back. “Oh my gosh!”
“What?” I asked, pretending not to know why she was reacting that way.
“What is happening here?” Eleven asked, tacking on to her sister’s performance with her eyes wide. “What’s going on?”
“What?” I asked again.
Thirteen put a hand to her chest in Victorian fashion, and both girls proceeded to go upstairs to their rooms to wash up. I just shook my head at all the silliness and went back to the sofa. By the time they came back down, I felt depleted of the little bit of energy I’d spent during the day. I went back to the sofa.
“What was going on before?” I asked Thirteen.
“I have no idea what you’re talking about,” she said, our family’s code for taking the Fifth Amendment.
I suppressed a smile, a signal for me that I really was feeling better.
Since Monday we’ve all gone back to our normal routines. My husband recovered from his laryngitis. I’m almost back to a hundred percent after the cough/cold/flu I endured.
This morning, Thirteen came downstairs for breakfast before school.
“My throat feels a little scratchy,” she said.
I held up a finger to her. “No. I forbid it. You can’t.”
She rolled her eyes.
“It’s all you guys’s fault,” she said, glancing at me and her dad.
“What did we do?” my husband asked.
The ribbing continued, and Thirteen took a handful of cough drops to school just in case. I hope it’s just the run-of-the-mill, fall-season throat scratchiness and nothing more serious. From recent experience, I know how miserable the more serious version can make a person. But the girls have shown me that they know exactly what to expect if one of them does get sick, because they took such good care of me.
Sometimes when parents are in the thick of actual act of parenting, we don’t know if what we’re doing is making a difference. If what we’re trying to teach the kids is actually sticking. Weeks like this offer me reassurance that it is.